{"id":759,"date":"2026-05-12T02:21:19","date_gmt":"2026-05-12T02:21:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/?p=759"},"modified":"2026-05-12T04:21:36","modified_gmt":"2026-05-12T04:21:36","slug":"hau-qua-lon-khi-tre-bi-dan-nhan-hu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/en\/2026\/05\/12\/hau-qua-lon-khi-tre-bi-dan-nhan-hu\/","title":{"rendered":"The serious consequences of labeling a child as \u201cbad\u201d\nHow labeling children affects their development?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">Many children are labeled as \u201ctroublesome,\u201d \u201csmart,\u201d or \u201cwell-behaved,\u201d but in reality, they don\u2019t become that way first and then get labeled. In many cases, it is the label that shapes who they become. Let\u2019s look deeper from a psychological and scientific perspective to understand how labeling can be used more consciously with children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/tre-hu1-1699433700756581507130-27-0-433-650-crop-16994337242131052492931.webp\" alt=\"H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u1edbn khi tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb d\u00e1n nh\u00e3n &quot;h\u01b0&quot;\" class=\"wp-image-917\" srcset=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/tre-hu1-1699433700756581507130-27-0-433-650-crop-16994337242131052492931.webp 600w, https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/tre-hu1-1699433700756581507130-27-0-433-650-crop-16994337242131052492931-300x158.webp 300w, https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/tre-hu1-1699433700756581507130-27-0-433-650-crop-16994337242131052492931-18x9.webp 18w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">There is a famous experiment by Robert Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobson (1968). They told teachers that certain students were \u201clate bloomers with high potential,\u201d even though those students were randomly selected. After some time, those students showed significantly greater academic improvement than their peers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This did not happen because the children were inherently \u201cbetter\u201d from the start, but because of something more subtle: teachers began to see them differently, became more patient, more trusting, called on them more often, and unconsciously created more learning opportunities for them. The same child, but the belief of adults changed the way that child developed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Based on this experiment, children around us can also grow in a more positive direction when they are seen as capable, when they are believed in, and when they are given more responsibility and opportunities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Causes of Brain Rot<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseprofile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/en\/2026\/05\/12\/hau-qua-lon-khi-tre-bi-dan-nhan-hu\/#Dan_nhan_la_mot_dieu_tu_nhien_doi_thuong\" >Labeling is a natural part of everyday life<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/en\/2026\/05\/12\/hau-qua-lon-khi-tre-bi-dan-nhan-hu\/#Tre_dan_tin_vao_cach_nguoi_lon_nhin_minh\" >Children gradually believe how adults see them<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/en\/2026\/05\/12\/hau-qua-lon-khi-tre-bi-dan-nhan-hu\/#Dan_nhan_tao_ra_vong_lap_hanh_vi_cua_tre\" >Labeling creates a behavioral loop in children<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/en\/2026\/05\/12\/hau-qua-lon-khi-tre-bi-dan-nhan-hu\/#Cach_nhin_cua_nguoi_lon_quyet_dinh_su_phat_trien_cua_tre\" >Adults\u2019 perception shapes a child\u2019s development<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dan_nhan_la_mot_dieu_tu_nhien_doi_thuong\"><\/span>Labeling is a natural part of everyday life<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In reality, no one intentionally tries to hurt a child. But labeling happens very naturally:<br>\u201cThis kid is naughty\u201d when a child spills water<br>\u201cHe\u2019s lazy\u201d when a child hasn\u2019t finished homework<br>\u201cShe\u2019s shy\u201d when a child is afraid to speak up<br>\u201cHe\u2019s naturally smart\u201d when a child gets something right once<br>The problem is not a single sentence, but when that sentence becomes a fixed way of seeing the child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A very simple example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>A child breaks a glass of water. If the child is seen as \u201cclumsy,\u201d adults are more likely to get frustrated and scold.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If the child is seen as \u201csomeone who is still learning to be careful,\u201d adults are more likely to guide them on how to try again.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>The same behavior, but a different way of seeing it leads to completely different responses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tre_dan_tin_vao_cach_nguoi_lon_nhin_minh\"><\/span>Children gradually believe how adults see them<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A child does not grow up based on what they are told once, but on the repeated \u201cconclusions\u201d about who they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example: a boy is often told \u201cyou\u2019re always so naughty\u201d<br>\u2192 over time, he stops trying to sit still because he starts to believe \u201cthat\u2019s just who I am\u201d<br>A girl is often told \u201cyou\u2019re so shy\u201d<br>\u2192 she gradually raises her hand less in class because she becomes afraid of being wrong<br>A child who is called \u201cbad\u201d every time they make a mistake<br>\u2192 begins to think: \u201cWhatever I do, I will be seen as bad\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"612\" height=\"408\" src=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/image-1.png\" alt=\"H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u1edbn khi tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb d\u00e1n nh\u00e3n &quot;h\u01b0&quot;\" class=\"wp-image-918\" srcset=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/image-1.png 612w, https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/image-1-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/image-1-18x12.png 18w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 612px) 100vw, 612px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Children don\u2019t react to a single sentence\u2014they react to a repeated image of themselves. In many classroom situations, when a teacher gives attention and praise to a specific student, that recognition alone can create a very noticeable change in the child\u2019s behavior. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, a student who was initially average starts to improve significantly after being told, \u201cYou have strong potential in this subject.\u201d The child becomes more confident, starts asking questions, studies more actively at home, and gradually becomes genuinely better in that subject.\n\nWhat matters here is not only existing ability, but the child\u2019s belief that \u201cI am capable.\u201d When a child is seen clearly and consistently through their potential, they tend to act in ways that match that belief.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dan_nhan_tao_ra_vong_lap_hanh_vi_cua_tre\"><\/span>Labeling creates a behavioral loop in children<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The danger is that children begin to behave according to the labels attached to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Very real examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A child who is seen as \u201cbad\u201d<br>\u2192 when scolded, the child reacts more strongly<br>\u2192 adults say: \u201cSee, I told you they\u2019re really bad\u201d<br>\u2192 the loop keeps reinforcing itself<br>A child who is seen as \u201csmart\u201d<br>\u2192 is given more difficult tasks in class<br>\u2192 gets more opportunities to practice<br>\u2192 and genuinely improves over time<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"626\" height=\"417\" src=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/asian-baby-kid-girl-holding-magnifying-glass-raise-your-hand-reading-book-education-children-school-concept-happy-smiling-student-girl-learning-studying-education-development-concept_39704-5406.avif\" alt=\"H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u1edbn khi tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb d\u00e1n nh\u00e3n &quot;h\u01b0&quot;\" class=\"wp-image-919\" srcset=\"https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/asian-baby-kid-girl-holding-magnifying-glass-raise-your-hand-reading-book-education-children-school-concept-happy-smiling-student-girl-learning-studying-education-development-concept_39704-5406.avif 626w, https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/asian-baby-kid-girl-holding-magnifying-glass-raise-your-hand-reading-book-education-children-school-concept-happy-smiling-student-girl-learning-studying-education-development-concept_39704-5406-300x200.avif 300w, https:\/\/linkachu.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/asian-baby-kid-girl-holding-magnifying-glass-raise-your-hand-reading-book-education-children-school-concept-happy-smiling-student-girl-learning-studying-education-development-concept_39704-5406-18x12.avif 18w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 626px) 100vw, 626px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>It is not the child who changes first, but the environment that \u201cpushes the child into that role.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is the self-fulfilling prophecy: what adults believe \u2192 how the child is treated \u2192 and eventually, what the child becomes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When labeling is repeated enough times, it is no longer just a description of behavior\u2014it becomes the child\u2019s identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example:<br>A child makes a mistake \u2192 \u201cbecause they are bad\u201d<br>A child talks back \u2192 \u201cthat\u2019s just their personality\u201d<br>A child doesn\u2019t do homework \u2192 \u201cthey are naturally lazy\u201d<br>At this point, adults are no longer observing behavior to guide correction. Instead, they are judging the child as a whole person. And when a child is seen as a \u201cfixed version\u201d of themselves, change becomes very difficult\u2014because no one believes they are capable of changing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Cach_nhin_cua_nguoi_lon_quyet_dinh_su_phat_trien_cua_tre\"><\/span>Adults\u2019 perception shapes a child\u2019s development<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"5\" class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Labeling is not completely negative. The issue lies in how it is used. A very practical way to shift it looks like this:<br>\u274c \u201cYou\u2019re so naughty\u201d<br>\u2714 \u201cThis behavior isn\u2019t okay. Let\u2019s fix it together. I know you\u2019re a good kid.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u274c \u201cYou\u2019re lazy\u201d<br>\u2714 \u201cYou\u2019re just not focused right now. I know you\u2019re naturally very good at math, just like me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Pygmalion effect doesn\u2019t only exist in experiments. It happens every day in families, classrooms, and society.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A child who is believed to be smart is often: given more responsibilities, encouraged to take on challenges, listened to more often, and as a result, given more real opportunities to grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the other hand, a child who is seen as \u201cweak\u201d is often: given fewer difficult tasks, expected less, given fewer chances to express themselves, and gradually becomes what adults had \u201cpredicted.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>Conclusion<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Labeling is not just about naming a child. It is how adults unconsciously \u201cdesign\u201d the way a child sees themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And the most important thing to reflect on is this: children do not become who they are \u201cpredetermined\u201d to be, but who they are consistently \u201cbelieved\u201d to be by the adults around them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Linkachu<\/em> \u2013 Someone who has battled weight for nearly 20 years and is currently exploring the \u201ceat fully, still lose weight\u201d method.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is my Facebook! <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/linh.do.984014\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em><strong><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-vivid-cyan-blue-color\">LinkachuMC<\/mark><\/strong><\/em><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00e1n nh\u00e3n l\u00e0 &#8220;qu\u1eady ph\u00e1&#8221;, &#8220;h\u1ecdc gi\u1ecfi&#8221;, &#8220;ngoan hi\u1ec1n&#8221;, th\u1eadt ra kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 tr\u1ebb t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i m\u1edbi b\u1ecb d\u00e1n nh\u00e3n. 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